Putting Things Into Perspective

So I got the word earlier this afternoon that I officially wasn’t being invited back to a fantasy baseball league I’d been a member of for nearly a decade.  It’s not my main league, but I’ve certainly had fun in it over the years (and having won it twice, I was ahead so far as my monetary investment in it went).  I can’t say that the news came as a surprise to me, as there had been rumblings about the move being made since the new year began;  the conspirators behind the scenes of the move probably thought that I’d be shocked at the news, when I’d only have been so if their intentions had actually been better disguised instead of the clumsy cloak-and-dagger approach that ensued.

I’ll confess to having no real idea as to why I’d gotten the boot now, and after so many years with the group.  All of the league’s participants had played in various fantasy leagues I’d run, and while we weren’t what I’d call “close” friends, we were — or so I thought — more than just disposable acquaintances.  The guy who is in my eyes the father of the league was the one who informed me, and assuming he reads this at some point, I can again say how much I appreciated his going to bat for me in vain when the vote was cast.

Was I bummed about the news?  I guess I was  — like I said, it wasn’t my main league, and I’d prepared myself for the eventuality anyway, so my main “disappointment” came in wondering why the decision had been made.  Considering that I’d never done anything remotely warranting expulsion in any league I’d been a member of (and certainly not this one) meant that the decision had been a personal issue for those involved — again, mystifying since I’d never had anything but positive interactions over the years with the conspirators until now.  And worse yet, what does that say about the world we live in when people make matters “personal” over a fantasy baseball league?

Anyway, another league member who had lobbied against the move called me earlier tonight to offer his own condolences.  After a half hour or so chat on the phone about that and other various news of the day — and my thanking him for his support and friendship — I hung up and went about my business around the house.  For a moment.

Until the phone rang about ten minutes afterward.

This call was unexpected.  An aunt, close to me and beloved by all the members of our family, was diagnosed with breast cancer today (this isn’t the aunt I’m almost always talking about, for those who know me, but it’s someone I’ve always been close to nonetheless).  Unfortunately, the cancer isn’t being caught early, and needless to say, the prognosis I heard tonight is not optimistic.

So I’m resolving to say a prayer tonight for her well-being and recovery — and for those of you who believe in such things, I hope you can offer your own for her as well, as they will be greatly appreciated by not only myself, but my entire family.  I’m going to try to be optimistic, but I’m somber at what might lie ahead.  I come from a very large family that has a number of members advancing highly in age;  two uncles of mine were buried last year, and I’ve had to come to grips with the fact that more sorrow is inevitable.  Considering that I’m approaching the big 4-0 myself and grappling with thoughts of my own mortality lately, I’ve had to take a deep breath tonight and gain some perspective.  Perspective I don’t think I really needed, but that it never hurts to be reminded of.  Perspective about what really matters in our lives, and what we really think — or should think — is important.

Perspective, I would imagine, that a group of egocentric people I know of could use a dose of themselves.  Hopefully, it won’t take a call like the one I got tonight to give it to them.


5 Responses to “Putting Things Into Perspective”

  1. rollthebones Says:


    My prayers are with you and your family during this tough time. Cancer is never easy to battle, yet often those diagnosed show tremendous courage and faith as they continue the battle to survive. Your article is spot-on, and it reminds us to cherish the things that are most important in our lives, like family and friends.

  2. thelasthonestman Says:

    My family and I appreciate the well-wishes and prayers. This aunt has always been a fighter, and we’re all hoping she’ll make a recovery. Thanks for the kind thoughts. I know this strikes home with you, as you’ve had similar family health issues to go through. My wife and I are keeping you in our prayers as well.

  3. jackattack7 Says:


    I enjoy your blog, very entertaining and more pictures of Scarlett certainly
    would be appreciated!
    Very sorry to here about your aunt. My prayers will also be with you and your family.

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